Promises Reduce Your Future Choices

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• External reference: https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/
• see,
  • appropriately engaged,
  • good thing to ask for a promise when things are clear enough,
  • expectation vs commitment,
  • be clear about your non commitments,

since none else raises their hand, you say, “I’ll do it”.

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

When you promise to do something, you make the present more easy-going.

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

Our default response to any idea that comes up should be: “Interesting. Maybe some day.”

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

very soft “no” that leaves all our options open

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

give it space so we can learn whether it’s really important and what it might entail

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

too early to say “yes” or “no” on first contact

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

shouldn’t make a commitment that we don’t yet understand

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

If we always say “yes” to incoming requests we’ll end up with a giant pile of work that only grows.

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

I am a people pleaser, and I often say I’ll do something to get out of an unpleasant conversation or to make others happy

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

end up moving an acquaintance or writing extra documentation at a time when I’d rather work on my latest project or go for a run.

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

you can still do the task you didn’t promise and pleasantly surprise the person.

— https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/

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