Promises Reduce Your Future Choicesfleeting
- External reference: https://blog.viktomas.com/posts/promises-reduce-choices/
since none else raises their hand, you say, “I’ll do it”.
Our default response to any idea that comes up should be: “Interesting. Maybe some day.”
very soft “no” that leaves all our options open
give it space so we can learn whether it’s really important and what it might entail
too early to say “yes” or “no” on first contact
shouldn’t make a commitment that we don’t yet understand
If we always say “yes” to incoming requests we’ll end up with a giant pile of work that only grows.
I am a people pleaser, and I often say I’ll do something to get out of an unpleasant conversation or to make others happy
end up moving an acquaintance or writing extra documentation at a time when I’d rather work on my latest project or go for a run.
you can still do the task you didn’t promise and pleasantly surprise the person.